My Mid-Life Audit and my 40 by 40 List

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There is something about reaching what could possibly be the halfway point of your lifespan that makes you want to pause and take stock of your life. Is it just me? I find myself looking back and asking these questions:

“Am I where I thought I would be in life?”

“Did I accomplish what I set out to do?”

“Am I happy with how I have lived so far?”

“Is there anything I would change?”

“What needs to change moving forward?”

“What is really important?”

“What did I consider to be important that no longer holds that much weight?”

“What lessons have I learned?”

“What have I learned about myself?”

I am an introvert, and maybe I tend to be more introspective than the average human. However, this is the first time I have ever given real thought to these questions. There can be a tendency to look back “on the good ole days” and the dreams I had that were left uncharted, and I could feel like a failure. I would rather take a genuine look back, as the older and wiser person I am today, and redefine what success means to me.

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What I have found is that the greatest successes usually occur in the seemingly small and mundane things, and mostly go unnoticed and unrewarded. But it does not make them less valuable just because nobody see them. I am shaped as much by the small successes as I am by the large ones.

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In an effort to be more present and aware of my life and intentions, I decided to create a 40 by 40 list. Forty things that I want to accomplish by the time I turn forty. Some of these things would be epic, should I be able to accomplish them. Others are really small, yet significant to me. Some are just for fun.

My 40 by 40 List:

  1. Write and publish a book.

  2. Start a successful business.

  3. Make a close friend.

  4. Pay off all debt.

  5. Get into peak physical shape.

  6. Discover my ministry.

  7. Get a meaningful tattoo.

  8. Go on a vacation (It’s been 10 years!!).

  9. Watch a sunrise.

  10. Learn a new skill.

  11. Write a letter to myself to open in 10 years.

  12. Go on a spontaneous adventure.

  13. Donate blood.

  14. Get a new piercing (nose maybe).

  15. Make a viral video.

  16. Host a block party.

  17. Meet my father’s side of the family.

  18. Renew my wedding vows.

  19. Take a second honeymoon.

  20. Flip a house.

  21. Host a charity event.

  22. See a Broadway play on Broadway.

  23. Make an apple pie from scratch.

  24. Establish a skin care regimen.

  25. Do a retreat weekend.

  26. Complete a large puzzle.

  27. Host a game night.

  28. Go to a hockey game.

  29. Take, Print, and Display family portrait (really bad about pictures).

  30. Get brows expertly shaped.

  31. Discover my signature look.

  32. Go skiing.

  33. Build a snowman with the kids.

  34. Ice skate on the Rideau Canal.

  35. Apply for my dream job.

  36. Go fishing.

  37. Redesign Master bedroom.

  38. Take a class.

  39. Start a couple tradition.

  40. Design and finish basement.

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There is my list. Some things will be more of a challenge to accomplish than others. Some things hold more significance than others, but it will be fun to see how much I can check off in the next year. What about you? What’s on your list? Share in the comments!